How can we optimize our chances of success? Well,
that is a good question. Everyone trying to conceive falls on a
spectrum of life energy and intention energy that is somewhere between
fertility and infertility. Knowing where one is on that spectrum
is crucial. Even though highly experienced fertility doctors and
practitioners are aware of this, most rarely assess or sufficiently
treat this key fertility factor. The women and couples I have assisted
for over a decade with fertility and pregnancy issues have taught
me that this seems to be the missing link in the pursuit of fertility
- the key fertility factor.
I love using the analogy of a flower or vegetable
garden because everyone knows that the right environment is needed
in order to reap the rewards of a garden. Any avid gardener will
tell you there are specific types of energy required for enjoying
a productive and fertile outcome. The soil needs to be healthy,
fertilized, tilled and tended. The right amount of water, air and
sunshine are also needed. And, weeds need to be kept out of the
garden. Only when all these forms of energy are provided can seeds
can be planted that will root, grow, and develop into a beautiful,
healthy garden. The more these ingredients are missing, the more
the results are likely to suffer.
The same is true when creating a fertile internal
garden in which the seeds of life can be successfully planted and
nurtured. The equivalent of healthy, tilled and tended soil is balancing
your life energy in favor of successful conception and pregnancy.
The equivalent of fertilizer is maintaining clear and unconflicted
intention energy, not only hormonal balance and proper nutrition.
Pulling the weeds means removing unhealthy energy, conflicted intentions
and other blocks that may exist.
Women having difficulty conceiving tend to not realize
that their life is their garden, not merely their womb. Many women's
lives tend to be jam-packed with work, or they are so stressed they
don't have an extra moment to nurture themselves in a day's time.
Or they have become so out-of-balance emotionally, that these emotional
weeds are choking out the potential for seeding and sprouting. In
other words, their energy is not conducive to creating a garden
in which successful conception and pregnancy can occur. There is
nothing mystifying at all about why so many of these women have
fertility problems or miscarriages: their "fertility switch"
is "off!" When on a fertility journey, it is vitally important
to make choices that women, and their men as well, to begin tipping
their life energy in favor of fertility.
A place to begin this tipping process is with a
particular type of energy on the energy spectrum, called intention
energy. Intention means being deliberate and purposeful. Obviously,
successful conception and birth is an intention. The problem is
that, on the spectrum of fertility and infertility, many women do
not know that they have been tipping their scales in favor of infertility.
They do not recognize how their worry, despair, sadness and fear
about their unsuccessful efforts (in addition to other issues they
have) are energies tilting their momentum away from getting pregnant.
Their hope, trust and knowing that they can become a mother become
hard-to-see specks of light.
If this has occurred for you, your energy is favoring
infertility. Here is the fertility key: To access fertility, you
must have the largest portion of your life energy and intention
energy favoring fertility. Your intention and focus needs some redirection.
This is not always easy to do because it is emotionally painful
to want a baby and start a cycle every month, or to want a baby
and fail one or more IVF cycles, or to miscarry.
Being effectively intentional and focused is a learned
skill. Learned skills require knowing what to practice, and then
practicing them. What you want to learn and practice is effective
ways of turning your infertility switch "off" and your
fertility switch "on." I wish you fertile blessings on
your journey.
Laurie Morse, L.Ac., is the author of the revolutionary
e-book "My Fertility Success," providing skills and exercises
to help women turn their fertility switch on by "pulling their
weeds," optimizing their terrain and planting pregnancy seeds
with their intentionality. She is the director of Holistic Health
Services in San Diego, CA., where she has successfully treated fertility
for the past decade. In addition, she provides workshops and tele-classes
on fertility success. For more information go to: www.MyFertilitySuccess.com